Assignment 1

Gray shared with us how opposite genders can acquire the communication skills to maintain their relationship.

Women have to understand that it is very easy for men to stop talking suddenly. Gray talks about the men’s cave as a place where men will cut off all communication to sort out problems themselves. It is not advisable for women to offer help when they are in their cave.

But when they are out of their cave, they want to be trusted for their judgment and their ability to solve their own problems. Lastly, they don’t like being blame so women have to criticize them with caution. These are the concepts on how women can support a man.

According to Gray, women don’t communicate their feelings explicitly. So to give support, men have to understand their feelings behind their words.

Many times, women just need men to listen to them and in the process, gain assurance from them. These are the concepts on how men can support a woman.

Gray wanted couples to be spared of the frustration in their relationship and stressed that time and effort is required from both parties.

As a man myself, I don’t talk for long as it would mean wasting too much time on unnecessary details. I prefer to sort out my problems in my cave as sharing it with someone would mean I have to spend more time listen to what he has to say before coming to my own conclusion. Unless I am really helpless, I prefer to solve the problems myself. So what I can say is that men are basically very effective and independent creatures and women should respect their cave.

In the highly educated society, not only men want to be trusted to solve their own problems, women too. When this happens, no one liked being blamed as people have their egos to protect. However, I personally feel it is never about blaming or not. It is always about one’s willingness to learn from mistake. This should be a better way to maintain a relationship.

And from my experience, women just need men to really listen to them, period.

Finally, other than putting in time and effort to maintain the relationship, both have to truly enjoy each other’s company as there is no point trying too hard to suit the other party.