When guys eventually decide that enough is enough, picking-up is simply a change in a passive attitude towards women to an active one then eventually to a natural inclination.
Picking-up for the past few months has improved my soft skills. I learnt how to manage my thoughts, instincts and emotions. I recently found out that I am most popular with people when I am being true to myself, couldn't been more grateful than this. And I am now learning how to juggle between women and studies.
Women brings out the best in men and it is a lifelong process for men. Even though I merely just started, I personally recommend picking up to guys who is looking for steady personal growth in terms relationship.
Good to hear! Wanted to ask out of curiosity, in your opinion to what extent do you think picking-up is a form of manipulation?
ReplyDeleteI have to point out that there is nothing wrong in controlling people to people interaction. It happens everyday. But what makes manipulation different from controlling is its element of malicious intent. Agree?
ReplyDeleteTo what extent? It depends on what intent you view as malicious.
There can be many kinds of pick up intent. Scam, sex, creating genuine long-term relationship, or for fun, or for practice, or etc. If a particular ulterior intent of the men is malicious to you, then his act of picking up is manipulative, not controlling.
Unless you view being controlled as something malicious, then picking up would be manipulative to you.
Thank you for commenting! Please feel free for more comments. :)
I'm interested in your comments about being true to yourself - it is in contrast with how I generally understand pick-ups, which is a kind of formula "con-job". But I admit that I don't have much background knowledge about it and I'm open to different ways of understanding this particular discourse.
ReplyDeleteA person can use rocks to create fire or to injure a person. But we don't praise the rock for creating the fire or blame it for hurting someone.
ReplyDeleteThe rock is just like pick-up, hypnosis, psychology or ulimately just an innocent tool.
Thank you for being frank by the way. Cheers! ;)